WAW Using God II

[pigskin]

Pigskin,

I have never read anything in the Good Book about an annulement being necessary to "resume" life after divorce. I have however come across a few passages that state adultery is an acceptable reason to no longer be married. Also indicates that you would be free to marry again and it not be sinful in nature.

Having said all of that, first and foremost is to love and forgive. When you receive your answer and you are at peace, you will do what feels right to you! Every circumstance has its own course. I would disagree with hope will disappear when it is time to call it quits. The reason I say this is hope should never disappear, but rather it changes to hope for the other to find their way on there own. He always gives us a way out of the trials and tribulations. I continue to believe you are "doing" all that you can. I have faith that you will know beyond a doubt when it is time to change your position.

I do not mean any disrespect in regards to the Catholic faith as I was raised Catholic. That is a tradition, but to this point; the only part in the bible I read as if it never happened is when God forgives our sins and blots them out. He sees them no more, beyond that I have not come across anything else that indicates treating something as if it never happened. Look to the word for your answers and reflect on how it applies to your situation.

Peace and Prosperity always!

The Catholic Church's position is that an annulment is required if you desire to get married again in the Catholic Church. Without an annulment you are still considered to be married to your wife even if you are legally divorced.

I don't believe the annulment is viewed as "erasing" the marriage; it is just an acknowledgment that the marriage should not have taken place as there was not a full commitment to marriage and its permanence by both parties at the time the marriage vows were exchanged.

In my sitch I am now comfortable that there should be no guilt on my part if I elect to end the marriage. I have the "fire when ready" order; no one can say I did not do everything possible to save the marriage. So it just comes down to my feelings, my observation of whether I see reconciliation as being a possibility given my W's actions, and how long I'm willing to wait.