H just sent me an email. Mind you, I haven't spoken to him since he was at the airport on Monday. Today is Wednesday.
He writes Hello, I just wanted you to know that I'm alive and working and then he asks me how the kids are and how things went with my FIL taking S5 to school/sports practice.
What/when do I respond. I am usually quick to respond to him because I'm always connected to email or text or something.
HELP!
M: 32 H: 34 S:5 D: 3 D: 1 Together 11 years Married 7 Bomb: PA/EA 8/13/09 (for 1 year on and off) ILYBINILWY: 08/09
"The end of suffering happens with the end of wanting." -Laura Munson
I'd wait until later this afternoon or evening. Then just keep it light, friendly, answer his questions & that's about it.
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
thing is. i don't want him thinking I'm pissed at him for not calling... if I responded lightly and friendly and answered his questions it would come off that I'm NOT mad. if I put it off until later, he will assume I'm angry that he didn't call. (i've actually ignored him the past and that sets him off).
god this is confusing.
when I'm peachy and happy and DON'T expect anything, he reaches out to me more while he is away. when I act b!tchy and don't reply when he writes, he turns into a jerk and will then totally not contact me.
it's tough...
M: 32 H: 34 S:5 D: 3 D: 1 Together 11 years Married 7 Bomb: PA/EA 8/13/09 (for 1 year on and off) ILYBINILWY: 08/09
"The end of suffering happens with the end of wanting." -Laura Munson
He has called me twice (once on the cell; once in the office; left VM on both numbers).
I just replied back by email (no phone call; I'd rather not call him) that all was good on our end and that his dad asked that he call. That's it. friendly and to the point.
I also noticed that he's been on skype, which he usually only logs on when he's away or has a scheduled call. He usually has it on when he's away because I usually have it on as well and we chat on it. I haven't been on though. I logged off. Just thought I'd add that.
M: 32 H: 34 S:5 D: 3 D: 1 Together 11 years Married 7 Bomb: PA/EA 8/13/09 (for 1 year on and off) ILYBINILWY: 08/09
"The end of suffering happens with the end of wanting." -Laura Munson
Just spoke with H. He called me. He gave me an update on everything going on there and I did the same regarding our end (the kids).
I mentioned that S5 would be staying with my folks the next two days because they'll be dropping off and picking him up from school and he asked if I was going to be staying with them as well and I said no. he asked why not and I told him I'd rather sleep in my own bed and it's more comfortable for me.
I get the feeling he wasn't liking the idea of me being alone and that I had the freedom of going out if I wanted to being that I had no kids with me.
hmph
M: 32 H: 34 S:5 D: 3 D: 1 Together 11 years Married 7 Bomb: PA/EA 8/13/09 (for 1 year on and off) ILYBINILWY: 08/09
"The end of suffering happens with the end of wanting." -Laura Munson
Personally, I think you should go out. Even if it's just by yourself for a pedicure, a coffee & a long stroll through Barnes & Noble. A girl's night out is even better, but start small.
It would be good for your soul. :o)
formerly known as "shelbel" Me 40, stbxh 40 DSs 9, 7 & 3 M9, T10 Stbxh is a diagnosed bipolar & an addict. The end.
he will get nasty.. I know this 100%.