What should I do about potential OM?

[timehealsall]

and you don't think that NOT exposing the A isn't going to affect the kids?

you expect Dazed to allow his W to cakeeat? no frikkin way! we can agree to disagree.

Look at this scenario. Both W and OM are in this fantasty land of cakeeating. They both still have their spouses by their side. If, and this can go either way, OMW decides to kick OM to the curb.. yes, he may be free'd up for W BUT who is to say that the OMW kicking him to the curb won't ignite a feeling of panic that his W has left him and realize that he doesn't want Daxed's W anymore?

When the A is out in the open. The thrill and excitement fades. The illusion starts crumbling down and the pair see each other for what it really is.

Dazed, I would contact OMW via FB if necessary. Send her a message asking to speak with her regarding your W and her H. Give her your number.