As far as contacting OMW. I think that might blow up in your face. I'd keep it local and set the bounry with your W, YOU WILL NOT LIVE IN A OPEN MARRIAGE, if she degresses, give a life lesson and kick her to the curb. Tough love.
I disagree, Dday. I think exposing to the OP's spouse is one of the most effective affair-busting tools we have in our aresenal, not to mention the fact that she has a right to know.
Why should she be the ONLY one of the four directly involved to NOT know what is going on, so that she can make her own decisions on what she feels is best for her and her family?
