"Therfor, 'old flings' are not of concern IMO in this game for the big picutre."
Not sure if I follow you. Are you saying I should NOT be concerned about this "old fling" OM?

"As far as contacting OMW. I think that might blow up in your face."
How? Any experience with this? From the intel I've gathered the OMW does sound like a take no shyte type of person. She blasted my wife pretty good in the email...assuming all of what I'm reading is true. I guess worst case the OMW blows up on the OM and my wife (again) after I bring up the subject, which I guess could make them circle the wagons?