......as you wish, send it if you want, I have no issue with it". From the way I felt, from his reponse, I realised I wanted a reaction from him. I started thinking he didnt care because he has warned her already "Crazy wife will send you a letter, ignore it, she is mad and I am gaslighting her"... YEP!! THAT crazy! I mean, I know when I am out of control, and I am out of control these days...
Another take on this is that he just doesn't care about OW and what she thinks but he knows you NEED to do something.
Kalni, don't let OW have the satisfaction of knowing she is still hurting you - because that's what the letter will do. She doesn't care but it will empower her.
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Moving forward, I think, means, abandoning the IDEA/NOTION/DREAM of the marriage/relationhsip we once had. As long as we hold on to it, now that we KNOW we dont have THAT, we are in turmoil.
I have posted to you about this I am sure. Reagrding your M, you are having to go through the stages of grief because you can't have that old M back. It's hard.....but also gives you the chance to have a 'better' M. I am not sure if I have been M'd just coming up to 24 years now or whether it is two M's with the new one starting when we renewed our vows?
You are at the place I was when I actually came to the boards. I nearly threw it all in because I thought I could never let go of what had happened. But I have. It has been a gradual and hard process.....but worth it.
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
