MrBond just showed me the link to her article. (bookmarked it, btw MrBond). I think her book would be just as good. Thanks for the heads up.

formerly known as "shelbel"
Me 40, stbxh 40
DSs 9, 7 & 3
M9, T10
Stbxh is a diagnosed bipolar & an addict. The end.