I don't quite follow, what's the other half of the hurricane in this situation?
Well, it can be different things in different situations and at different times, but the gist is that you go through a crisis, then a calm period, and then another crisis. This could be a lot of fighting and problems in the M (first crisis), then things with the soon to be WAS seem to get better, then the WAS leaves (second crisis).
In your case, I was thinking of the problems you were having in the M and her departure the second time (front part of the storm), then things calm down a bit once you're apart and she's likely settled on the D...though you don't know it yet (the eye), then the D drops and the wheels come off (back part of the storm). The lull in between leaves you thinking, "Well, I survived that. Now we just have to work our way back." just before the whole thing falls apart.
Originally Posted By: StupidRomeo
I'm having trouble grasping the idea of going dark. I don't know what else I can do to go dark. Other than her b.day dinner and a handful of email exchanges over the past month we haven't communicated or seen each other.
Well, perhaps you have been darker than it sounds. It seems like you mention quite a bit of interaction, some pursuing (yes, the b.day counts), and the financial stuff. If you're just considering it here and none of it is actually being done, then I withdraw my remarks. However, if that's not the case.... It is true that with a child, it is impossible to go completely dark, but many here have used that as an excuse for not really doing the LRT when it's called for.
It's not the first time I've mentioned it in this forum, but I am continually reminded of the old song entitled, "How can I miss you if you won't go away." That's not a guarantee that if you go away she'll miss you. But if you don't, it's unlikely she ever will.
Originally Posted By: StupidRomeo
I'll be honest sad songs do me in. I can't stand them these days because I want to scream the lyrics so loud that she can hear me from my house.
You're taking me too literally. I'm not saying you should listen to sad songs. I'm saying that if music works for you, find something that's right for you. "Hold Me Now" might have done it for me, but maybe you need "I Will Survive" (Gloria Gaynor) as an anthem of survival or "I Just Haven't Met You Yet" (Michael Buble) as an ode to hope and the future.
As for StupidRomeo, I think it's fine. Frankly, it should be whatever you want it to be (if the back-story makes sense to you, that's all that matters). My apologies to those who insist you should change it, but I don't agree. But what do I know...I'm just an OldFool.
