My first post. I'm so nervous. Married 16 years in July, together 17 years. SS 24, SS18, S14. H has been having an EA for approx 1.5 to 2 years, PA since 1/8/09. Bomb dropped 4/19/09. I moved out for 1 month June to July 09. Moved back home and it's been hard. H says he has no physical contact with OW, but they work in the same office, but not with each other. They have contact via email & text. I catch him about once a month and he swears off. He says they just banter. The last email I read - OA says "I'm suppose to be mad at you." "We could be friends if you got divorced". I am so frustrated. I confront him and he swears off only to be caught again. All I want is for him to give up the OA and give 100% to the marriage. Everyone says it's time to give it up and move on.
