Confusion causes them to do alot of things, CK. Like the prior advice given, you probably need to go as dark as you possibly can, NO CONTACT.
As long as his lips are moving, he is most likely lying, as they all do.
Looks like you handled him well, although he was involved in "rewriting history" as he went...they all do that, too.
Continue to focus on yourself, don't call him for anything you might need done...figure out how to get it done yourself...this is not just his time, but YOUR time to learn to be totally independent.
You were asking if they remembered anything once they made it out of the tunnel(if/when they make it out), the answer is no, they will remember very little if anything from that time once they are out completely and going forward.
He has a LONG way to go before that happens, if it does happen. Life has NO guarantees when it comes to anything concerning the MLC, and you have no choices nor do you have any control except over YOU and your life.
I was reading where you said God was seeming to be late...I know from experience, God is NEVER late; He is ALWAYS right on time when He moves within a situation.
All things are done according to His purpose, His timing...and He knows ALL things about everything. There have been times when I have questioned Him on things, and been shown that all things have a time and a season...He knows when to move, and He has ALWAYS been right on the mark.
The point being, He created us and knows exactly what we need and when we need it. He makes a way when there doesn't seem to be one...I've seen this happen many times over my life, and it increased my understanding of the Lord.
I'm still dealing with my husband down due to a broken ankle, but our bills are paid, we are fed, and the Lord continues to watch after both of us....my husband is not quite the believer that I am, but still the Lord has continued to make a way for me to support myself and him on my own.
There are some days I seem to be working myself half to death, BUT, the loads are there for me, and if the Lord wasn't working within the situation, we'd have a really hard time.
I could say the same thing about God being late considering some of the loads I've had to book; but the bills are still getting paid, even if a few are a couple of days past due...but I'm looking at the fact He is providing our needs, and not quibbling over due dates.
I know it's not the same thing, but what I don't understand about how God moves, I leave in His Hands...as sometimes it's not meant for me to understand exactly why or how He does things.
In time, He reveals what He chooses to reveal what He knows I will be able to understand..the rest I have to just learn to not question Him about....as my understanding is nowhere near His.
The Bible says "Seek and ye shall find. Knock and it shall be answered." Some of the answers are found within His Word, and some will be given through people He sends to you to help you understand more about your situation.
In time, I believe, you will gain a greater understanding of why this is happening, but that time is not now...It will come later on when you're stronger and better able to understand.
In the meantime, lay all things within His capable Hands, and trust in Him to move when the time is right.
Trust and faith are built through waiting upon the Lord, and that takes patience, perseverance, and being willing to go the distance. The only way out of this trial is through it..no shortcuts are allowed. The more you fight it, the longer it will take to finish it, unless you get stuck within it...and that has happened to people before.
God allows things to happen for a reason, sometimes that reason is revealed right off the bat, sometimes it is later before you see what it was for...but there is a reason for everything that happens in this life.
Take care of yourself, focus on YOU...questions are all right, but don't let the questions take away the focus from what you'll need to do to grow within this trial.
You cannot help your husband at this time, only yourself, and the more time you spend focused on him, the less time you will have for yourself.
No matter what you do, it will not make this go any faster..it will run the speed it's meant to run until finished..or he gets stuck...again, there are no guarantees in this life.
You can go on with your life, all the while leaving a door open for him to come through, but do NOT put your life on hold for him.
It was never meant for you to do so. And, eventually, when it all comes clear to you, you'll kick yourself hard for having held yourself back when you could have gone forward and learned all you needed to learn.
Take care.
Remember, as each person is different, every MLC/Transition is different..what works for one may not work for another. Most of the time it is trial and error for ALL involved.
