The important thing is to stop the negative feedback cycle. and game-playing on your end.
One he starts pushing your buttons, you go off and there is little chance that things can be resolved.
Try to look at the emotional reactivity article that I referred to...
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
I've been on this forum for about 6 months, so I would have to say that the answer is no.
I will admit that I stopped following your situation for a while but as I said, it doesn't seem like things have progressed much farther than they were before the baby was born.
He will jerk you around and play games with you and flip back and forth until you say "enough!"
You and your kids deserve better than that.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
Well, it seems like right now he has the best of both worlds.
He gets to pretend that he is this caring father figure to your kids without putting any effort into them, or you.
How long are you willing to live like that?
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
I put it yet again all out there for the lovely h.
in summary told him either man up be husband and father or get out of our lives for good and FILE!
Well apparently i am supoosed to spend my time while on extended maternity leave at his mother's house so old daughter can visit and i have a relationship with mil.
and supposedly at that point i will prove to h that i have changed....
He is NOT ever going to file, i argued with this issue with myself. db says don't file, let the WAS do all the work.
apprently i am supposed to somehow get me and 2 kids under 3 12 mles away with a broken down care to pick up money and food so h would then support us...
and yet he says he won't come to my house to give us money but will come over to pick up one of the kids, and still doens't mention newborn son. well other then to complain about him not having h's name.
He will never go to court since SB 1070 in az is passed.
in our convos he has even said screw usa, he's going back to mexico. i have that saved for future use!
i've made mention of jobs he has, all illegally. i mentioned to him how scared he must be with new law in effect. that's when he sent the msg about the usa.
Me 39 H 30 d 18 previous marriage d 2.5 with H s 4.5months with H Seperation Nov09 july i'm dim to dark - set internal deadline
Trentc, Let me ask you this with your experience, have you known of a poster in similiar sitch as mine with this severe of a husband?
Some of our wives are like this or worse, since they know they are more likely to get away with it from being a female. I'm personally of the belief, that starting up one of these cycles means you don't value your partner... common sense says one must leave.
