Ack! I wrote a response hours ago but apparently it didn't post.
I hope your friends were there for you and stayed to make sure H was gone without bothering you. If I had been there I would have slapped him so hard my handprint would still be there. Grr.
You know how much I admire and respect you. You've been through hell and back and are thriving. Now I think you should follow Wholeagain's advice and completely drop the rope. Yes, it's difficult because he's been such a jerk for such a long time. You have been seriously wronged. And I know you've been working on detachment for longer than most of us. Perhaps a new distraction will help...tall, dark and handsome?
If you love somebody, set them free. http://tinyurl.com/2empx2g
