I'm just curious because even things that sound insightful from ICs start to sound like scripts to me after awhile.
Sorry - forgot to add that while the IC is really hitting some good nails, that doesn't mean you need to act on them.
Like rr22 added, the IC can highlight issues, perhaps by being led, that are real. That doesn't mean they are issues that need to change.
My anxiety keeps my ADHD at bay. Had I not been uptight, I'd get myself into real trouble. Understanding why (which I think the IC is doing well) is the part where I think you can move from acting one way to CHOOSING how to act.
For example, if you know WHY you feel one way when your H says/does something, you can better control it when you want to. It doesn't mean that reaction (bad or good) isn't actually good.
There's an Islamic phrase that's something like, "there may be a thing you hate, but through it God brings much good".
IC, rr22, and you have given me much to think about until my appointment next week. I'll work on prioritizing the things that ring true or that I want to strengthen. I still will work on my reactions and the things I can control. I can do this, I can do this, I can do this . . .
