Stay dark on anger days or you will start a fight that could set you back weeks. You have to exercise, journal, vent it to a friend, or get it out in IC. It's not fair. But I bet your dad would be happy to listen to a big earful of it. LOL.
All good advice, wise one. And you're so right about my father--he would cackle with delight.
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If you want to allow him to come and go, and I think there's a good argument for that, make a habit of hiding your laptop or putting on a password before you leave the house. Put your self help books or whatever away where he won't see them. Other than that, who cares if he sees your dirty laundry? He's living his dirty laundry.
I wish I'd had a little more notice than I did--I couldn't remember if I had any books or lists out or if my special spiral was open, and I was almost in a dead panic about what might be visible.
I DID have something out that might have looked very unusual. I had printed a picture of Vincent D'Onofrio for my (former step)sister to put inside a card for her (we're grieving his departure from Law & Order). I hope it didn't look like I was considering becoming a celebrity stalker.
Of course, it can't be worse than when a contractor came to the house several months ago. A Kama Sutra book and an item that belongs in the delicates' drawer were out in plain sight. I think contractor and I saw them at the same time and made an unspoken agreement to ignore them.
LOVE this: "He's living his dirty laundry." So great!!
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How can you leave stuff out on the counter for him to see if you change locks? How can he kiss the turtle or boxer in private if you're there? For all you know, he's laying in your bed feeling awful for a few minutes. Let him.
What would I do without your perspective? These things didn't occur to me. I guess I imagined him giving our wedding pictures the finger or dancing around, singing about his upcoming freedom from my tyranny. Thanks for pointing out these things.
