Do what is best for YOU and your children! Money well spent if it is in your best interest! You are right in not trusting her right now. I know exactly how you feel seeing spouse vs spouse on those papers...hang in there! I told my L I wanted this to take as long as possible and then after the papers are signed it is another 6mos before anyone can get remarried! A lot can happen in that time! Handle yourself with dignity!
M48 H53 M16 T18 S16 D13 SS30 H drops bomb PA/8-30-09 H leaves 12-30-09 D filed by H 2-10 H asks to come home 4-11 Piecing