embracing change

[flowmom]

Thanks RNM and rr and CW.

That is a good point. It is highly possible. Could be first wave of actual detachment, which will come and go, but also could be blunting of anxiety by AD. If so, maybe I should get me some of that detachment pill. Ha. Keep us posted.

Smart sister says she thinks that I actually have made real progress and done the work, but that the ADs helped to do it. So I'm going to reframe not as "fake detachment" but as ADs gave me a boost towards getting the "first wave" of detachment. The decrease in anxiety is quite noticeable and it's a relief. I've had a lot of thoughts about whether H is sleeping with an OW recently, but I'm actually able to choose to release the thought and think about something else rather than getting stuck in an anxiety spiral about it.

Who knows? Who cares? Grow up, men of the world.

Amen sista. My guess is the grumpiness is about guilt and feeling like a victim ("boo hoo, poor me I have to work so hard to support the "ex"").

Don't point it out to him at this time. Then he gets to project naggy evil Mom onto you and he gets to play misunderstood teen.

OK I won't. I guess I'm just discouraged because even my R goals as coparents seem so far away: being able to comfortably share a meal, or do an outing together with the kids.

The senior citizen clients sure can hike a long ways!

lol he's not that old. And I did wait for him a lot . Time to work the stairs!