WAW - Very confused and devastated - pt 11

[confusedinpa]

Hey there bro! Thanks for checking in on me. I've been prowling your thread and see your continuing your mission. Very impressive.

Ironically it is 1 year ago yesterday since she moved out. It is amazing how hopes/dreams/expectations changed so much in that time. In the end I know I am a better man after this journey and my boys are better off because of that.

Since I started work, my life has stabilized somewhat. We're in a routine now where I do not have to see her anymore. The last time I saw her was on my oldest's son's 8th B'day. We were all suppose to go to an Easter hunt together (one that we have been going since my boys were born). It was her weekend so she had told our friends she was taking them (my friend had shown me her email reply saying yes). The Thurs before, I mentioned it to the boys. They were very excited. She then texted later that nite that she never told them she was taking them. I just said I would be willing to take them if she wasn't since they have gone since they have been born. Next morning she text me to just take them. That was the last time I had seen her (when I picked them up from her).

Since then, I had my lawyer draw up the papers to formalize that, even with my new job, she will not be recieving any support and will have to continue to pay child support (about 1/2 of what's she's paying now). So she knows that she will not be getting back on the gravy train even now that I've started work.

We got our taxes done (we still filed as married jointly as it reduced our total tax bill, ok since we haven't finalized the divorce) and when I told her how much she owed, she complained about needing get a loan. I just told her that if she can't come up with her share, I would just file as married seperately and just pay my share. She can deal with figuring out the filings then. She dropped on the check on 4/15.

I've continued to get a life. That in itself is an up and down ride as well. I had been seeing a new female friend for about 6 weeks (just every other week when I don't have my boys). It's progressing slow but we shall see. I had met someone else in the midst of that turned pretty intense but it was very quick lived (started and ended in 2 weeks). Oh well.

Work is busy but good. I am enjoying it as it's what I like to do, even though the money is not as good. But that's not what it's all about.

So life continues and I'm trying to get a life.

Thanks for checking in....