All very interesting. I'm wondering who's trampling your "boundaries" though. Did you bring that up or did she assume you are a people pleaser and tell you you had a problem with that? I'm just curious because even things that sound insightful from ICs start to sound like scripts to me after awhile. Guess I'm skeptical. So I guess question is: did she lead the discussion in that direction by proclaiming you this and that? Because just because that freak at work tried something on you doesn't mean YOU have a boundary issue you need to now worry about. You were not the first and last person he will do that with. ANd it doesn't sound like your H trampled around on you. It sounds like he sulked and stuffed until he exploded and left.
Wonder if your tingling finger is stress clenching or new AD symptom. Just a thought.
And why WOULDN"T you want your H's approval? You also want his love. I don't find that to be a pathology on your part. IT's natural. You are bonded with him and thus miss him. That doesn't make you an approval seeking doormat.
I agree with all the communication stuff and wall of words to defend his actions stuff she said. Sounds totally like the interactions you have described with him. You are not being heard because he is presenting a defense of his leaving always and a speech about his moods.
