still separated, in limbo, still hopeful

[flowmom]

Newmama, I hope you see a L. You have nothing to lose but a bit of money.

Glad to hear about your long-distance friend . You have no reason to feel guilty IMO, and frankly I think it helps with detachment otherwise WAS wouldn't use other people to detach from their spouses.

Whatever you posted before about deadlines isn't binding IMO. You have a right to act according the feelings and information that you have now. It's OK to change to plan B when you are clear on where you stand.