WAW Using God II

[pigskin]

Hey Pigskin,
I don't want to put a damper on things, but how do you feel about an annulment? If I get D, I would like to continue to fully participate in my church. An annulment, to me, seems to make everything, M, kids, just like it all didn't happen. It just leaves a bad taste in my mouth. We can all get married again in the church and still be able to take communion and be full fledged Catholics. In a sense, it's like it is all very temporary and if something happens again, we just wipe the slate clean and start all over.

I have no problem with an annulment. Supposedly it is pretty thorough and looks for signs or patterns of behavior that you may have missed in yourself or your spouse which show something less than a full commitment to the marriage. I don't see it as erasing anything; it just means the marriage should not have come about.

Now whether I think I qualify is a different story. I made damn sure I was sure before proposing; I even waited about a year longer than my W wanted to. Plus we were blessed with 3 perfect kids. Hard to think that God would give you children if he didn't approve of the union.

In any case an annulment is not needed unless you wish to be married in the Catholic Church. Those who are divorced do not face any repercussions whatsoever. But if you remarry without an annulment or outside the church, you are not supposed to take communion, which kind of defeats the purpose of being Catholic.

Today for me is one of those days where I feel like moving forward. Not particularly down, but feeling like I've done all I can do and I need to get the ball rolling. Tomorrow will likely bring the opposite feeling.

I need to meet with a lawyer as well, idontunderstand, just to get some questions answered and understand the process. Maybe I'll do that later this week or next week.