That happened once and although it still concerns me through MC I have seen H calm down. H didn't hit him, he held him too strongly during descipline and didn't realize. Although he still is defended as seeing this as inappropriate, I have seen his behavior begin to change. My lawyer said the best I can do is encourage him to be a better parent and ask for him to go to parenting classes. I was worried about him venting his frustrations out on S too much, but this does not hold up in court ad will cost me a great deal of money to try to prove.
This has calmed down and I have no legal way of keeping S from seeing H. It is in our legal separation agreement that we have 50/50 as my state aims for.
The drugs have been addressed although H has tried some he doesn't use them regularly. I misunderstood about the daily presecription he takes for anxiety = I thought he didn't have a prescription but he did get one.
Yes I still want my marriage more than anything. I have not been innocent in years past and H is scared of me. Although this depresses me I hope to rebuild trust as I believe he is trying to calm down as well.
My MC said it is my job to walk away from any verbal abuse and in this way I see that I have allowed it to continue. I need to work on walking away and stopping it.
