My STBX asked me to find a place the day I was served. I didn't budge and that was a very fortunate decision. She could have really screwed me on custody which would have also left me holding the bag on a very sizeable CS payment from what I understand.
Hopefully you can get your JPC you want that would be a good start. But prepare yourself for the worse case senario.
It doesn't sound like your W has an OM and that is a bonus for now. It doesn't appear to change the course your headed down but it has to lessen the emotional trauma a bit.
Best of luck!
M48/W47 M15/T22 S3 D3 In House Separation 10/06/09 W files for D 10/16/09 OM1 discovered 10/28/09 (PA) OM2 in mix early Jan. W moved out 1/26/10 In Mediation (Settlement in prep)