BTW it's OW's Husband that keeps calling me not the OW and it was her who initiated the break-up with H. That must make it harder on H to process being "betrayed" by her and get over the big "love" he got himself entangled in.
Oh! My apologies for the mix up. Yet, OW's husband needs to put his focus on his marriage and himself...he has no reason to be calling you anymore, since your husband and OW are finished.
It's equally as hard going through the OW Withdrawal process whether OW or MLC'er ends the affair...the grieving process seems to be the same. Time is the one factor that cannot be predicted..each person is different in that process.
Forgiveness of self is the hardest to reach, and he may NEVER forgive himself for what's he's done to you, Mila. If he does, it will take a great deal of strength within himself to accept the fact that he's human and made a grave mistake that he can never take back.
None of the processes of MLC go quickly, that I know of. They each take time to complete.
Life is always difficult, no matter what you face, and you need lots of patience to help see him through, all the while working on YOU.
That's a TALL order, I know..but you can fill it, and you'll be fine.
Remember, as each person is different, every MLC/Transition is different..what works for one may not work for another. Most of the time it is trial and error for ALL involved.
