Can anyone give me insight into the awakening mentioned by HB as I just wondered at what stage this was seen and what signs are given by the MLCer that this is occuring?
This usually comes as the stage of Replay begins to try to come to an end. They begin to see things in a more clear light..it is also referred to as seemingly "peeking" out of the tunnel, or "clarity" within the fog. They will also realize some things that will lead them to dump the OW..as long as OW is in the picture, they are still in Replay...dumping her is the most clear sign they are moving out of Replay, and coming forward.
The awakening CAN occur BEFORE OW is dumped, as they have decisions to make within their lives. You'll observe changes within their personalities, a slight returning to what was before, and it will be slow, but steady. Their thinking will seem to clear, and some of the secretive behavior will become a little more open.
Any interruptions will cause them to turn on you, as I well know.
So it's the time of waiting and watching to see what they do as they do it.
From what I'm reading on you recently, your husband is showing these signs, and they are positive things you're seeing.
OW will be the BIGGEST step he makes..until he dumps her, there's no hope of him even attempting the work on the marriage.
Wait and watch.
Remember, as each person is different, every MLC/Transition is different..what works for one may not work for another. Most of the time it is trial and error for ALL involved.
