Thank you for the fodder. I will have to chew on that. The conversation on having to move on will be the turning point and final though imho. I will not lie about having relationships though. I will not as an example to my children. My children are intelligent and i know they will surmise the situation (or maybe have). I will lead by example and be the better person in this.
My wife is selfish, no question, and she is scared to act and doesn't want to look like the bad guy in this i'm sure. I almost have the feeling she is keeping score, or trying to, to find something to blame me or use as the ultimate aha excuse to 'leave' me. Hasn't happened and not gonna happen. I won't give her the easy way out. I know she wants to appear the victim to her family and friends. That would make her decision easy.
I see her behavior lately changing a bit, and thats what concerned me and led me back here. She is becoming short tempered at me at times for no reason but i recognize it and don't bite back. Almost like she is baiting, trying to create conflict. Maybe its her frustration, maybe calculated, i don't really know.
I don't see a remedy for this. I will flip strategy a bit and try some new things. I am skeptical as who wouldn't be after all this time? Yes, i am very unhappy and that has got to change.
