I think sometimes that you are being over-analytical of her responses. It feels like you are giving testimony on a witness stand, instead of discussing your marriage.

What makes you laugh? What about her makes you happy? Why do you want to remain married to her?

Me: 44, Wife: 39
M: 17 years T: 20 years
Bomb on 08/25/09
1/13/10: MC started
1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs
8/28/10: Wife moved out
No talk of D, no movement

"Every day is another chance to get it right."