What should I do about potential OM?

[pearlharbr]

Don't be naive, dazed. They're not 'just friends' and you know it. That's what your gut is telling you and you should listen to it.

Read the book Not Just Friends by Shirley Glass. It's extremely informative and helpful.

Rob is right, she will lie to you, her friends, her family, anyone and everyone to protect the A. The simple fact is that all cheaters lie. Gather intel so you know what you're dealing with. Then we can help you form a plan of action.

Personally, after going through this myself and reading a lot on the forums, I favor a combo Puppy/Allen/Rob/Gucci approach.

• Gather intel
• Confront with boundaries (I will not live in an open marriage)
• Expose to relevant parties
• Enforce boundaries
• Put them out of the house when they refuse to end the A or suggest D (or just because they're cheating)
• Agree that you'll be better off with someone else who will treat you with the respect you deserve
• Make yourself the best version of you because it makes you happy

Of course GAL, 180s and detachment are required throughout. Plus it's a lot of fun. Ok, the detachment isn't fun until you get the hang of it.