Hi, I thankyou for all your replies, special thanks to Heartsblessing for taking the time to reply at length and give me insight into what she sees, unfortunately though Heartsblessing you must of missed the info that I posted some time ago that said ex actually married the ow, he had been left less than a year when that marriage took place, they have been together 5 years now and married 4 years in november. also to those of you who thought you were hijacking my thread no worries about that you are most welcome, regards everyone