I totally agree with robx on the changes talk. Just assume she doesn't believe your changes. They never do. It does send opposite message when you raise the 'changed' flag and start shouting to she notices.

Improve for you. If she sees it fine, if she doesn't fine. If she likes them, fine, if she doesn't, fine. Remember those changes are for you not for her.

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Me-47
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D-5
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