Gray states that 'hope for reconciliation' is a classic form of denial and that, for any relationship to reconcile, it must be terminated in totality and then completely rebuilt.
While that may be true for many relationships, and may not be a bad way to pursue it in a lot of cases, there are many couples who manage to reconcile without breaking up completely. Most of the couples who go through Retrouvaille are able to turn things around without having to start over from scratch.
That is, if I understand what you (and Gray) are saying; I might have to pick up a copy of the book and see.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
