I think my deciding factor to stay in my M after discovering 2 affairs was that I did not want any regrets later down the road that I did not try hard enough.
Originally Posted By: courts0818
But I think deep down my heart wants to try to forgive him.
I too felt this way. Somedays, I feel that I made the wrong decision and I am not sure it will work out for us but for the most part, I try to focus on the small changes we both have been making and realize that it does take time.
If you decide to let H move back be sure to make yourself a list and set some boundaries.
My H refused to move out but when we decided we both wanted to work on our M, I told H that these were my conditions:
1. H had to commit to MC 2. No contact with OW 3. STD tests 4. Transparency plan - able to view cell phone, email accounts, etc...
We have been piecing since Jan and its only the last couple of weeks H is truly showing remorse.
