Agree with OldPilot and it is the premise of Dr. Gray's book Venus and Mars: Starting Over. Gray states that 'hope for reconciliation' is a classic form of denial and that, for any relationship to reconcile, it must be terminated in totality and then completely rebuilt. His book was one of the main reasons I decided to file for divorce. That and another pdf written by a woman on infidelity basically saying the same thing.

FIB

Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11)
Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t
Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10
Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;