It worked for me. I was the king puss-boy, melt man, enabler. A horrible DB'r but eventually I learned.
Like was posted above, after starting to DB it took 6 moths for her to decompress to the point where she said well, I'm not leaving. Another year for her to do OM detox and then a year of limbo before I really GAL, got strong enough etc...to say F it, this isn't what I want. We had a blow up over one weekend about the poor state of our marriage. I just said fine, on Monday I shall file. On Monday we talked. I said after my eggs I'm off to lawyer up. It was only during that breakfast the she finally was shook enough. She has been working as a partner in the marriage for the last few months. Not perfect but improving.
Without DB I would have been divorced 2 years ago. Of that I have no doubt.
Many success stories quickly move on, trying, I think, to put this place far behind them. It gives the impression of fewer success stories than there actually are.
Me 44 She 46 S13 D9 M18 T23 3 years DB'ing Successfully busted
