I did tell the OMW about Divorce Busting because she seemed to need some support, and this is the place to get it. I hope she will want to tell her husband that I contacted her. He will be the one angry this time. She said he is very narcissistic. I think my wife is starting to think the same way as the OM.
I hope he starts showing his true self to my wife and everyone else. I am sure he will not expect his wife and me discussing their R. I want to put him and my wife in the position they have put me and his W in. I think they will not be very happy. For that, I will be glad. They deserve everything they have coming to them and then some. I am very upset with her right now. It is so irritating for someone to not say "hi" or just show common courtesy.
I know that is the way with the WAS. My W is no different.
LSG,
I meant to respond last nite, but I was promising myself to take some time off of DB forums.
The more time she spends around OM, the more she thinks about him. So she may also build up this narcisistic shell or master it. The affair in itself is a narcissistic action.
I told someone in another post, that the reason we burst the affair is because she is connected to the OM. You will not have a good connection with your spouse while she is connected to OM. If you burst the affair, you have a better chance of connecting with her since the connection to the OM is severed or damaged.
Until that connection is broke, you have to wait like the rest of us and hope for luck.
Good luck on your sitch, and I hope things work out for you.
