Congratulations on the recognition and resulting prestige. Must feel good for the soul.
As far as you being at fault for everything wrong in the marriage, the former spouse accused me of the same. I took great comfort in his statement because as long as he blamed me for everything, there was no way I was.
It's a journey to stop being affected by the other spouse's negative perspective and asking oneself "what if's". When folks climb out of the muck, take responsibility for their own actions and move forward, that's when healing begins.
