I texted him asking about selling his 4 wheeler for parts. He said it was fine, asked about a bday gift idea for S11, then said he'd be here in the am to get the kids. I politely said that I wished he would contact me about plans w/kids rather than rely on S11 to relay info. Now I'm getting major attitude telling me that I should've told S11 that he didn't have a choice but to go with H and that he did tell me he was coming to get them regardless of what S11 wanted. (This is was in response of me explaining that it's confusing when H says one thing and S11 relays different info.) Anyone got advice on my this and the previous 4 posts?
I can't believe that I've posted five posts with no response. Maybe I'll try posting on another forum. ???? Sucks that I need this website/online community at all but sucks even more than now no one's responding here either.
Hey Dedicated. Don't get discouraged. We are here.
I think you have the right to tell him that he can't just up and decide when to take the kids without talking to you first. He is the one who threw your life for a loop and has been carrying on an affair and being a jerk.
Tell him the kids deserve this to go as smoothly as possible and he needs to respect that.
Soleil, thanks so much. I did post a new thread on WAW forum. I've started to get some wonderful help.
How do I link my threads?
I've told him that the kids deserve this to go smoothly and to give them time to adjust. He's been gone one month today. For two weeks, I've heard that we should sell the house. He thinks that the faster everything happens all piled up back to back (him leaving, selling the house, moving, D), the faster they can start to recover and accept their new lives. Says he thinks it's better to just give them one huge bomb rather than one at a time with a adjusting period in between.
He's lost it!
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Still hoping and praying he'll change his mind and ask to work things out. Very hard to keep up hope when there's NC (only about bills--never good, or kids). We can stay w/in 6 feet of each other at practice/games/birthday parties for hours with nothing at all said. This sucks!
I hate that his fam tells me and each other that they disagree with this 100% and that I'm doing everything right and they want to tell him off and tell him to get his butt back home and work on things but instead just sit here acting like nothing's going on and all is good in the world. They say that it's easier to act like all is well, ignore the elephant in the room, and talk about the weather.
I truly love my in-laws but thank God that I was raised in the family and the manner that I was!
Talked to L. Did not file b/c don't want D. If did file, it would only be to protect myself (to set control of home, alimony, child support, custody, etc.). He doesn't have money to file. L advised to call his bluff when it comes to him trying to force me to sell. Said to tell him to do what he feels he needs to do. Scared to do that b/c we'd have nowhere to go and I'm unemployed (due to H shutting business down 1 week after leaving). I'm signing anything. He's ticked b/c he always gets me to cave and I haven't yet.
No time for self today, Soliel. Kids, bills, and job apps all day. Now headed to baseball game for S11.
Also scared to file b/c feel like chance of R would go out window as well as his fam is on my side right now and wouldn't understand my filing for protection.
