I can honestly say that I've been EXTREMELY nice to him. During the last eight years (due to the guilt of my dating while we were seperated in 2002 per H's advice), I've done very well at letting his hateful words and gestures go. I've spent a lot of time thinking about every word I say to him prior to speaking and making sure it's in the right tone of voice so that I wouldn't set him off. That part of my LRT isn't new. It's normal for me to have extreme patience with H, bite my tongue, and play nice when he doesn't. It's good to know that you're seeing results by the NC and being nice. There have been moments that I see TINY positive reactions but for the most part, nothing is getting to him to steer him on a positive path re: our M. I pray that the NC and me GAL will make him realize what he's losing rather than him think that he's right and I really don't care and have never wanted him.
S11 did tell me that H spent the weekend using "some little black phone texting". (That would be the phone for his parents' business that he only uses when he's up to no good. That's the phone he's used to talk to childhood friend behind my back. He talks to her on his regular phone where I can see the phone records. There was someone that he talked to on his regular phone for a week or so starting about 10 days after he left. Surely that's who he's texting with.) When S11 would ask what he was doing, he'd say "business".
