By living in the now, you can work on the qualities you have learned helped in the marriage deteriorating and make sure you don't make the same mistakes with any future R's, but also with your girls. Learning to listen and making sure you truly hear their point of view and take it into account is something that you will want to learn to do with anyone so living in the moment will help you to focus on who is talking to you and what they are saying.
Focus on today and choose well today. Also you keep saying the M is over, and it definitely looks that way, but why can't you start today and show STBXW the revelations you have made through actions. Be the best person you want to be. You are already great, but if there are things you know you want or need to change start today and live today. Don't worry about tomorrow, but focus on you today.
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