17 Years and No Explanation

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You are doing very good at the patience, it really inspires me.

I was afraid of the NC too because H was telling me I never wanted him and didn't really love him. So I felt NC was the wrong thing. However, I have found that he is contacting way more then me him. Granted it's really only about bills and kids. I would advice you limit contact to only what you have to and be nice.

Being nice has been the hardest for me because all I want to do is yell at him. I've only done it for the last 3 weeks, but I've noticed a huge difference in his attitude. Also, I don't ask him any questions about OW or what he is doing and that has helped too. What I'm starting to realize is that me being nice is helping me and my kids more then him anyway. So it's part of me GAL.

My H did the same thing with the house the first couple of months we were sep. I hated it, that is all he ever said to me. Because your H is not paying (greatful that mine was) I think the best thing for you is to get a L to order him to pay it.