Take it easy and get some rest. No need to make it worse!
I hope I am doing the right thing with my kids. When S17's teenage switch engaged and he ran up a huge cell phone texting bill, I made him pay it back to me. When S14 broke his cell phone, I told him that even though I had insurance there is a deductable and he would need to pay that to replace his phone. They both understood. Not happy about it but understood where I was coming from. Consequences.
I hope that your 24 year old stops reacting long enough to relize that he doesn't mean what he is saying. It's been a tough year all around and maybe a bit of his attitude is the residue of that. Just keep being the loving, consistent mother that you are and it will all work out.
hugs, kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory