Thanks for the link Sandi. I think I finally understand the concept. It isn't what I can do or can't do or enforce. It is what I will tolerate as a human being.
Another lie discovered today. She just went underground on a social site, rather than quitting it. Not that I cared either way, but it was just another lie that didn't really need to be said.
She is pushing to pull away, but wants all sorts of conditions that will allow her to do so gracefully and without consequence. It is my desire that she go, so I am at a loss to give her what she wants so she will leave or not give her what she wants but have her stay.
Me:42 W:38 M:17 Announcement: Jan '10 S Filed: Mar '10