I waited probably a week longer than I should have, but was put on the antibiotics and steroids and laid low. It's amazing what the right medicine can do. And folks were wonderful in giving my daughter rides to her various activities.
And yes.. my oldest is being a pain in the ass. Didn't pay the nominal amount he said he would. He said he'd be hanging out with friends; still haven't seen him yet, to the point where I checked to see if any of his clothes were left in his closet. However, I get a slight sense of paranoia while on steroids and feel the urge to get angry, so I keep that in mind. It's a balancing act. I know he's pissed at me, doing passive aggressive stuff. I'm focusing on the big picture and figuring out what to say to him.. re: respect. I don't think you can tell someone to respect you, though.
My mother in law has taken a significant and sudden turn for the worse. I'm making the hour and half drive today to spend a few hours with her. My sister-in-law wants to review some things with me. My mother-in-law's voice is so quavery and sad, it breaks my heart. I have to work on not going overboard. After my last conversation with her, I called my mom because it was so upsetting.. just to get re-centered. I might bring a change of clothes in case I don't feel I can make the drive home.
The anniversary of my dad's death is coming up. It turns out that almost all of us will get together to be with our mom. I'm adding a few days. It will be nice not to be the 24/7 mom.. just relish some mother/daughter time.. and helping her toss some of the clutter.
The house has less action than a puddle of mud in a drought. I've decided on my bottom line number for selling, which is higher than the price it would sell at. I'll probably take in a boarder in the interim. I'm in a convenient area for nurses, interns and professionals.
Anyway.. I'm sluggish today (meds) but will take a walk in the sunshine and rest up before leaving later today.
