The first arguments in long time provided me opportunity to call her out on pissy behavior towards me...hadn't had to do that in long time
You did great! I know you do not enjoy having to do that, but it is par the course. I still believe that she will begin to see the improved man that she has and will be smart enough to stick with him.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!