I would give him at least six months of hoops to jump through... THROUGH YOUR FT... do NOT TALK TO HIM
Marriage is a life time of hoops... if he can't handle six months of them then you know he won't make it the long haul.
I just don't like this contacting him stuff... I really don't think its helping you. If he's talking to a FT then that's all he needs right now and he's in good hands. You can get any INTEL you want through your FT... stay AWAY from him.
Make him do six months of hoops before you contact him.
