Well it seems that the end has arrived. I am signing the divorce papers this week and moving into an apartment. Like I read somewhere on this site, I am moving foreward, not moving on. But before I leave I was going to send her this note that I wrote asking her to explain something to me. But I wanted to run it by people here to see if I should or not. So here goes:
I think after almost 27 years together I deserve an explanation as to why this has happened. The only thing you have ever said was that you weren't happy. You have never said why you didn't come to me and tell me that you were unhappy or why you were unhappy. So why?
I never abused you, never treated you like crap, didn't drink, do drugs or have an affair. Yet for whatever reason once you became unhappy you just decided to throw it all away without putting any effort to trying to save our marriage. I know that I wasn't without fault in our marriage. I know that a lot of times I couldn't or wouldn't admit that I was wrong and I know that I didn't always communicate the way I should or could have and in doing these things I helped create a situation where you didn't think you could talk to me. And that was wrong on my part. I stopped being you best friend when you needed one. I take full responsibility for that and I am forever sorry I let that happen. I know that I was 50% responsible for the relationship problems. But you were 100% responsible for the affair, and there was no reason for you to have an affair. You chose that route all on your own. You knew that is was wrong, but you chose to do it anyway. And by chosing to have the affair you became selfish and self serving and unwilling to address the issues that were affecting our marriage and work on the problem because you were to busy with the other man in your life. You wanted what you wanted and to hell with everything and everybody else. And still to this day you haven't ever shown an ounce of regret for the hurt you caused or the chaoss you created. And now look at what that has cost us and our daughters. A broken family.
