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[25yearsmlc]

I have lived with an alcoholic and I have lived iwht someone in MLC.

IGNORING them just turns your home into a MESS, things go missing, get damaged, YOu can't keep a home stable for children with an addict living there for long...

You have to show them the door or get them in a program or you leave with the kids and find a healthir home that they arne't allow into anymore

Just detaching isn't going to help when you LIVE in teh same home wiht the addict... they will Make your LIFE HELL for as long as you live with them

I don't want to compete in the AA addict world but yeah, I have personal experience with the addiction issue on all sides in all directions aplenty. Irrelevant for this comment- WE are not using the same terms apparently. In this case, for Passenger, I don't mean detachment to = ignoring him...dear God no...I'm thinking much more tough love stuff. DETACHMENT for her, is to stop caring so damn much about what he does WHILE she gets the heck away from all this and if that means HE leaves and isn't in her face, so he can drink and "F%$)" then so be it. What on earth is good about the sitch now? Well, She's with the kids (his kids, but she loves them too) and she is in the house. So, doesn't something have to give/go? Will it be her or him?
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