Mr. Langshanks.... I have noticed that this isn't the first time that you have jumped into a long term poster's thread without reading enough to know what's going on. Giving advice is great, but if you are not going to read enough to know what's up, it would make sense to stick more to new posters, and go and grow with them. (I'm not saying you should read all of the posts of a long timer, unless you are really interested.)
The other thing I've noticed is that you've given a lot of advice, and tried to sound pretty authoritative, and I have seen very little about your own situation. I think it helps everyone to know a bit about the people that are posting to them. Why not start a thread, and let us know what's up with you?
I hope this doesn't come off as overly critical. The point is that a lot of people here are on a knifes edge, and we should all be very careful about how we give advice, and what advice we give.
I wasn't aware my tone is overly critical. Sorry it is not my intent. While we are all willing to help people past things that once where difficult for us in these situations, I agree I need to make myself more aware of the situation and the history before I make strong comments. I apologize.
I also am thankful for resources like this website, which allowed me to become rational in the midst of a bunch of gaslighting, lies and desception. I'm not sure I want to depict my entire sitch, because I get angry again. I will say thought its very much like a couple of the posters on the website.
OK, quick vent here, totally unrelated to STBX, for those of you wanting a good laugh-
Do any of you remember a few months ago on Gardner's thread a raucous discussion about BOB's? A bunch of us had some interesting stories to share...
Anyhoo... someone from the TSA stole BOB out of my suitcase on my way back from Houston!!! They left a note stating that they had gone through it, and yes, obviously they had, it was not organized the same as when I packed it. After reading their little note, I looked through the suitcase to see if everything was still intact and discovered BOB was missing. Therefore, either I left BOB in Texas at my bro's house, or TSA had it, and I just wasn't sure which. Soooo...
I have to send an embarrassing text message to my bro to ask him to discretely search the room for any personal objects that may have been left behind. He texts back that nothing was found and someone TSA might have been a little horny...
Very funny! Was it tough to write to brother or is he cool? My suggested replacement. Hmmm. Can't advertise here, but it's like a magic wand. sounds like a Japanese grill: Hibachi or Hitachi or something like that
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
Bunny, your stbx is such a pompous @ss. He certainly wrote a lot without saying anything aside from admonishing you for standing up for yourself. Stay the course, Kiddo. You soooo totally rock!
Gardener, love you, man!
You too, SDF Girl!
Daddylongshanks, if I had seen your post sooner, I would have torn you a new one. You are lucky the others got to you first. You have no idea the absolute hell our Bunny has been through.
And sweet Bunny, I will keep my, ahem, "BOB" under lock and key, or at least get a duplicate just to keep in my luggage. Actually, I think mine is called "Heart Throb" or something like that.
Shanks... I understand being hesitant about posting your situation, but in my mind, if you want credibility when you post to others, it will really help for people to know something about you. When I read your posts now, I see someone who has been here a very short time "telling" people that they should do certain things. A lot of it is good advice, some I am not so sure about, but knowing where you are coming from helps everyone understand it. Also, it's kind of nice to have a "home". As things evolve, folks usually pick up a set of regulars that started visiting near the same time, and have some things in common. And it's nice to have a home where they can come and "visit".
Heck, this is the kind of thing I would post to your thread, if you had one!
