H4L,
I am with newmama on this one and it's seems you husband's verbal abuse to you in front of son is not healthy either.

Sorry, I may not have read far enough here... but do you have a lawyer?

You first priority is your child, right? Then you and then marriage third, right?

Is you hubby a fit parent? Didn't I read he was doing prescription drugs that were not prescibed to him? That alarms me! Can he be trusted with your son?

Are you still aiming for a marriage recovery now that you know about the OW or are you planning on a D?

M38, H37
S3, S7
Together 15 yrs
Married 8 yrs
Bomb July 2008
Inhouse separation
"I hate you" "We are over" (too many times to count)
Reconciled Sept 2009 (still worth it)