The dreaded LIMBO

[newmama]

Well here are my 2 cents. OW is a crazy chick. You must have already suspected it but your H was not seeing it obviously. FINALLY he sees it- it's his wake up call!

So IMO would you rather he be back because OW dumped him or because he dumped OW? I am in favor of the latter.

If I am about to break up with someone then I give the hint by not even seeing them. The only thing that can counter that is that husband could always use OW visiting as an opportunity to see his son.

And As are addictive relationships...and I think once you get the court ordered custody agreement in place, with specifics on where and when your H will see OC, then there could be an angle in there for preventing H and OW from being private together. Sorry I don't know the details of it yet- it just seems right.

SO did you give your H a list of things you need from him to do ?
Is he transparent and accountable for his whereabouts?
Has he written a no contact letter/ end of the A letter to OW and shown you and have you made sure it was emailed or mailed?

And expect with 100% certainty that OW will contact your H (I KNOW they have a child together but I mean in other ways). So he has to tell you whenever she does.
You can also have them agree to only communicate about when he will see his S and if there is a problem. Otherwise, no news is good news.

Do you have a way to check his accountability and see who goes into his apartment?? I know you might not feel like you should have to, but his word is worthless so you need to be able to see if he is being honest you know?