the issue with BIL is that i'm not involving him, he is involving himself now. he wants to speak to each of us separately and figure out how to resolve this.
OK, maybe I'm missing something, but why is it your BIL's responsibility to "resolve" your problems?
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement